‘Love instilled in marriage
Can bridge the new and old gaps
Ever created in any heart
Be it Love or Arranged Marriage
Always do remember
It’s just beginning
You have to travel afar’
Life is a complete package of relationship; some are blessed by destiny, like our parents and siblings. While some we pick and choose from our life like friends and of course a life partner. Being at marriageable age you are sure to encounter with questions like when are you getting married? And the kind of marriage love or arranged one, you would prefer in your life?
We grow up playing ‘Gudde Gudiya ki Shaadi’……but it’s strange when real life hits us we soon realize that it’s no more ‘Gudde Gudiya ki Shaadi’, a feast or a bonanza. We begin with a different notion but we end with a different definition based on experiences in relation to time, space and people. People change, time change, situations change and so do our needs priorities and perception. The inner metamorphosis sometimes even changes our beliefs.
Be it love or arranged marriage, LOVE is that sparkling element which lights the heart and soul of the partners. Every relationship is a pure amalgam when respect, trust, faith, commitment, compatibility, understanding, companionship, fidelity and dedication are all merged together. They play a crucial role in cementing this bond. As they waft love through beautiful various ways from one soul to another. We all know love balms and soothe every grief. Marriage does not come with the guarantee card. There is no perfect formula that makes sure that if its love marriage it has 100% chances of survival or if its arranged marriage you can be sure that it will withstand any crucible circumstances or situations unwanted.
We all know that both love and arranged marriages have their own pros and cons; they have their effects and side effects too. But LOVE is that drug which immunes married life, because everything comes out of love. Love is spontaneous. You talk, you listen, you wanna understand and you wanna express yourself, all because you love your beloved and everything your thoughts, your words, and your actions originate from that perennial source. Love needs to be intertwined with acceptance, forgiveness and immense patience. Marriage is a life long commitment. One needs sincere and honest dedication to glide along the even and rough surfaces. You grow when you accept each other in the way they are, in spite of the differences in thinking and habits you not only welcome but value each other. Only for that one single reason that you love your better half and this life is really wonderful sharing with them.
Marriage is like exploration. Whether it’s love or arranged one. In love marriage you are quite aware of some specific chapters though some real definitions are yet to be discovered. While in arranged marriage your syllabus becomes twice. A little more appreciation and refrain from criticism. Mutual respect and commitment towards each other makes the bond strong. While expressing your love helps in exploring different and hidden shades of love which always comes as a surprise from your partner.
As long as the focus is on the beaming lights of love one can hope that whether it’s love or arranged one, marriage can dazzle life even through the dark tunnels.
This post has been written for Sony Entertainment and Indiblogger Contest https://www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange